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Reading these few pages, I am in awe that my emotions are written as precisely as they were/are experienced. Had I known then, that just the tiniest spark of light would develop into a constant and comforting light, the seeds of hope may have been planted sooner. I am only on page 54 of this little treasure; this is truly written for all of us who have experienced the loss of a LOVE.I am wavering pretty consistently now between the second and third stages of recovery. All of the deaths, except my niece were the result of cancer. There is hope, life and happiness after loss. In Feb I lost my loving dog Mugsy,, in May my wonderful sister-in-law, then in August my young niece, and in September, my exceptional Dad. If I had had this book at the beginning of my recovery, I would had read this over and over.I was not sure I could even live, so recovery was not even in my thoughts.
But I did live, and I am recovering quite nicely, and I can assure everyone, this book is right on the mark. I must admit, I still sometimes slip back, only for a short time, to the first. This little book could have been that spark. At the end of January, just 4 months after my Dad died, we received the horrible news that my Mom also had a terminal illness and she survived just 7 more months. Then, my life came to an end (or so I thought), just 5 weeks after my Mom's death, my husband of 39 years decided he need "to find himself" and walked out. Buy it for your friends, family, co-workers, anyone who has experienced a loss.
And my book will too. The hardest aspect is feeling so alone, that there's no one else who has suffered like you have.
I recommended this book as a resource in my book He's History, You're Not: Surviving Divorce After 40 and it's very unique in its format. Carry it in your purse or pocket and whip it out when you feel really low.
The lovely thing about this book is that you can open it anywhere and glean something helpful from whatever page you're reading. We need to be reminded that what we are feeling is normal and something everyone feels when they have lost a love.
I found myself reading it in the bathroom, one of my favorite crying spots because my daughter couldn't see me. I found the most helpful aspect was the book's affirmation of what you are going through rather than always emphasizing moving on.
This little book will give you some comfort that you're not alone. Get a copy of both.Erica ManfredauthorHe's History, You're Not: Surviving Divorce After 40
While there is nothing we can say during these times of loss, this little book seems to help the person realize that what they are feeling is normal, and that there are stages to mourning. This book is for anyone who is mourning a loss.I know 3 women who lost their husbands and this book was some help to them. They all said they read it a few times over, and it was a little help on those sleepless nights. It cannot fix anything, but it does seem to help. Please purchase it for anyone who is experincing a loss.
I highly recommend that anyone suffering a loss buy this book. The poems in the book, the advice in the book, even the sentence as small as "You will survive", have been a life saver for me and I am so grateful to the authors for writing such a simple, yet overwhelmingly helpful book that has given me such hope and the ability to move on.
At first I was skeptical that a book could be the answer to my sorrow, but after reading just several pages, I was amazed. During that difficult time, I read and re-read this book literally hundreds of times.
My physician "prescribed" this book to me a few years ago after my long time love left me. The day he told me he was leaving, I pulled out my book and have used it almost every day since.
It was like my own personal breakup angel. Now, several years later, I am going though a divorce, with the same man who left me before.
Also, I have recommended this book to several friends who have experienced painful losses recently, and they too have received a great deal of comfort from it. It really is amazing.
I found this book to be very helpful. It was original in its content and self help. It was to the point and kept the reader moving forward to a place of comfort and understanding. Excellent book, I bought extra copies to distribute to therapists and group members.
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